It has been some time since I have written you. A lot has happened recently and I have to get it down in text and out of my head so I have it somewhere but not dwelling on it any longer.
I was having difficulties living life to the fullest and paying so much in rent as a single woman in a two bedroom apartment. Now, I know what you’re thinking, just move to a more affordable place. Well, when my rental lease was up at the beginning of December, I tried to get a different place, but no place would take me without a co-signer, mainly because I haven’t been good at keeping my credit score up, I’ve fallen victim of the thing that is DEBT. And I’m really not a victim, I did bring it upon myself to spend the money I didn’t have assuming I would have the money one day to pay it back. Well, now the credit card companies want me to pay hundreds of dollars a month which I just don’t have. So I did the sensible thing for a normal human being to do with a spare room, I offered it up. And got a response rather quickly. A man was looking for a place for his fiance to stay while he was doing training and try-outs for an indoor football league. I met the couple and they seemed very nice and genuine, so I agreed to let them rent my available room for a few months. It was for her to stay, not for them both to stay. He asked to stay for a few weeks prior to the start of the training camp, and I agreed, trying to be a good host. And things were fine, at first. But I’m one of those people who get anxious just thinking about confrontation, of any kind.
It didn’t take long for me to develop strange pet-peeves about my new roommates. They were by no means bad people or inconsiderate housemates, but I’m a bit of a control freak like my mother and need things in their place, and if you move anything of mine without putting it back, WATCH OUT! Haha. So they leave water on the bathroom sink edges after using the bathroom, and never shut the trashcan lid, and leave the toaster plugged in after they are done using it. Those are small things that shouldn’t really both me, right? And what about when they use my pots and pans without cleaning them, so I have nothing to use or have to clean them before using them but clean up after my own self? And though it’s not a rule that you should ask someone before getting in the shower if anyone needs to use the restroom, it’s a courtesy that I would like extended to me always, as I always extend it to others, as I hate when I have to pee and I’ve waited a bit too long, and as I am about to get up the shower turns on… dang it! So I’m trying to adjust, because I know I’m irrationally difficult at times. And though I know this, I still feel it pertinent to inform my guests of things that don’t really matter. But come on, they grab something out of the fridge to use it, set it on the counter, continue cooking, and leave the refrigerator door wide open for minutes on end. UGH! That makes me want to yell at them furiously or shake them until they get it. YOU’RE WASTING ELECTRICITY, not to mention letting the temperature of the fridge increase.
So what do I do? I gave them a F**King steal on the room because that’s what I advertised it for online, hoping to get a nice college student, or a young person, like myself, to live with and become friends with. But these people are not my friends, and the girl is increasingly bitter towards me and short. I recently found out they tripled the electricity bill, and I had to confront them about raising the rent, I don’t think they liked that much, but f**k it, I don’t care. I’m already giving you a great deal, way better than I should.
Oh, and by the way, he didn’t make the team, so my one roommate that I asked for turned into two people who share the rent of one, and don’t care to see the kindness I bestowed to them before they even moved in. But now I feel like a total B***H because I’m resentful towards them and feel like I’m getting shafted on this deal. I’m paying more than anyone else, and end up taking cold showers half the time because she takes multiple showers in a day, leaving no hot water. And I have a knot in the pit of my stomach because I just want to scream and shout for them for what seems to me to be my own issues. Am I blaming them for my thick-headedness? Am I being as unreasonable as I think I am? How the heck to do I tell them that I want them to pay the full half of rent because there are two of them living here now, instead of just one. Is it worth it? NAH! NO! It’s not worth it to talk to them about it. It’s selfish of me, right? Just leave ’em alone. Let them have the ‘great deal’ and have them pay what they owe for utilities. I’m not paying their utilities, I shouldn’t have to. I pay mine, they pay theirs, and I hope they enjoy their stay, but only stay through March, because, honestly, I’d like my place back. AND I met a nice girl who is a student at the college near where I live. She’s looking for a place to stay in the summer, so I let her know I have someone living in my spare room at the moment, but don’t think they’d be staying much past April, which is what the couple told me. I’ll be letting them know at the beginning of April that that will have to be their final month, if they haven’t decided by then. I want someone to live with me that I enjoy the company of. Someone who I can talk to without being ganged up on. (The couple don’t gang up on me, but I feel like if I tried to say something they don’t agree with, it’s two against one, no matter what I think.) So I’ll have to figure this out. I don’t want them to be here forever, or at all through the summer. It was a fun experience, and gave me insight into how other people live. But I’m ready for a change.
I’m ready for my next roommate adventure, and maybe I’ll get enough experience with roommates to write the Do’s and Dont’s of Roommate Life. Haha.